The past

Lately nothing seems to go right for me. I don't have the job I'd like to have. I had two tickets at the end of last year and only got out of one thanks to a cop who couldn't fill out the form correctly. The very strange man I once dated seems to be at my gym by 3 p.m. sharp even though he lives across town, much closer to another gym he could go to, and he stands in front of my treadmill staring at the television or talking to someone everytime I see him. The man I have recently been seeing doesn't seem to know how to talk and we keep going through these periods of awkward silence I can't seem to get used too. And it seems that lately my friends, who are usually my closest advisors, can't help me feel better despite their best efforts. There's no one to blame. Not everything is bad.
Here is what I've realized about this situation. With every bad incident there are also lots of good ones. We can't hold on to the past. Even if the past is just last week.
I've noticed that some of our kids at work are aging out of our program. Some of them are in long term foster families and some are in adoptive families but they understand that they're on their own once they reach 18. All of this is stressfull. We don't like to lose the good life we once had. For some people its moving on after high school, and for some its readjusting to life after marriage and kids. Sometimes its just being able to adjust to having a stable life in one place without moving every time something goes wrong.
In all of these situations we need to learn to let go of the past. That means letting go of how we expected our lives to be and accepting what we actually have. I have great memories of how my life was five years ago. There's no way my life could have stayed that way. Though my job is frustrating because I hate working weekends, I love helping these kids. To help them in the best way I can I need to let go of my past in order to help them let go of their past. Then we can all find a spectacular future.